From left: Gabe and Olisi Hindin, with 2-year-old Zoe (Courtesy photo)
From left: Gabe and Olisi Hindin, with 2-year-old Zoe (Courtesy photo)

Gabe and Olisi Hindin hadn’t really noticed each other before, but at a party that Olisi didn’t even want to attend, the two talked for hours. Nearly two years later, after a discussion about a music collection blossomed into love, the northeast D.C. couple were married.

The Hindins have found, however, that they’ve needed more than shared interests to overcome the rude comments, piercing stares and looks of disdain they face as an interracial couple.

Olisi, 42, a native Washingtonian, is African American while Gabe, 44, has German Irish and Sicilian heritage.

Olisi recalled an incident when she heard a man mutter that she could always “come back home” after seeing that she was meeting Gabe for lunch.

“I was like, ‘Wow, this is still happening?’” she said.

Gabe remembers feeling angry another time after a waiter gave the tables around them noticeably better service.

According to the Pew Research Center, one in five new marriages is now interracial. While statistics suggest that interracial marriages in America have gained greater acceptance, not all couples have that experience. Still, they have found ways to cope.

Shared religious faith along with a community of fellow believers have been invaluable in navigating the cultural complexities.

Gabe and Olisi initially met while worshipping and associating with a diverse group of people in their congregation of Jehovah’s Witnesses. Neither their families nor their fellow congregants were surprised when they began to date and later married.

The experience was similar for Monifa and Isaac Homza’s multiracial, multigenerational clan.

Monifa’s Nigerian-Caribbean father and Korean mother were often a curiosity in their New York City neighborhood. But at home, the children could see their peaceful and loving relationship, Monifa said.

“They took care of each other in spite of what was happening around them,” she added.

Meanwhile, Isaac was growing up in rural Virginia, where he observed the racial divide daily on his bus ride to school.

As he passed two churches that shared a parking lot, he noticed that the lot divided attendees by race.

“It seemed strange to me because at our congregation we all met together,” Isaac said.

The couple eventually met through a mutual friend when Isaac moved to New York to work at the headquarters of Jehovah’s Witnesses with volunteers from around the world.

Now living in Maui, the Homzas teach their three children that all races are equal in God’s sight.

“One of the Bible principles we try to teach them is love of neighbor,” Monifa said. “We don’t categorize people. We love people of all races.”

According to a study conducted by the University of Utah, married couples who had shared values reported higher levels of marital happiness and individual well-being than those who did not.

The Hindins agree that love, peace, and faith are among the shared values on which they base their marriage and family life. They credit Bible principles and prayer with helping them to cope with mistreatment.

“I’m very triggered by injustice,” Olisi said. “It is something that I constantly have to pray about.”

Gabe agrees that prayer gives the fortitude to cope with rude comments and prejudice.

“Even if you’re being peaceable with others, those negative things can still hurt,” he said. “Throw that burden on Jehovah God, and he helps us have peace. People are gonna do what they’re gonna do, but we can control how we respond.”

The Hindins also review articles found on that deal with interracial relationships. Additionally, their families, fellow congregants and friends throughout the D.C. region provide a supportive network.

After four years of marriage, the Hindins are still listening to the record collection that brought them together that night in 2015.

Olisi hadn’t wanted to attend the party because she was grieving the recent loss of her father. She heard Gabe had an extensive record collection and could probably give her tips about record players, something she needed for her father’s albums.

Now her father’s soul music blends with Gabe’s soul, jazz and rock collection in a wooden cabinet built by Gabe’s father. They are raising 2-year-old Zoe to hold the same values they do about people, with a diverse taste in music to match.

Olisi appreciates that she’s learned to have an open mind about people from different nationalities and backgrounds.

“In this case, it opened us up to an opportunity for love,” she said. “If you limit yourself and you’re not applying those Bible principles then you could really be missing out on something good.”

More information on the activities of Jehovah’s Witnesses, including resources for happy family life, can be found on their official website,

Stacy M. Brown is a senior writer for The Washington Informer and the senior national correspondent for the Black Press of America. Stacy has more than 25 years of journalism experience and has authored...

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  1. Reader BEWARE

    The religion of Jehovah’s Witnesses is NOT on a “mission of bridging racial divide”, but they certainly want the world to think so.

    Don’t just believe it. Don’t just repeat it. Check it out! Get the facts. Do the math.

    The internal reality of interracial marriage among Jehovah’s Witnesses is not as flattering as this romantic D.C. interview attempts to portray.

    Under legal theory of fair use for the purposes of commentary, criticism, journalism, research, teaching, etc; readers should also be informed of the following facts:

    Governing authorities for the Watch Tower corporations of Jehovah’s Witnesses have published guidances for believers living under certain circumstances to either *forgo* pursuit of interracial marriage, or physically *relocate*…

    Exerpts below:

    (additional evidence, is freely available)

    *Watchtower 1973, December 1st*

    *”In a few places, there are even laws making interracial marriages illegal. When that is the case, Christians are under Scriptural obligation to obey them, as such laws do not make it impossible for them to worship God with “spirit and truth.” (John 4:24; Rom. 13:1) Of course, if a Christian would prefer to move to a locality where such laws are not enforced, he is certainly free to do so.”*

    *”In certain localities, where racial prejudices are strong, this could put added strain on the marital relationship and could be especially trying for any children resulting. So the Christian should give thoughtful consideration to the probable consequences before entertaining the prospect of interracial marriage.”*

    *”The Christian is under obligation to proclaim the good news of the Kingdom to others. (Matt. 24:14; 28:19, 20) As a factor, then, he may consider whether or not interracial marriage is likely to create a seriously adverse effect on the attitude of the people in his community toward this Kingdom-announcement work. The examples of Christ Jesus and his apostles show that they were willing to forgo things to which they had a right rather than severely hinder persons from being receptive to the truth of God’s Word.​—Rom. 15:3; 1 Cor. 10:32, 33.”*

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