It’s probably a parent’s worst nightmare — learning on the news that your child has committed a heinous crime for which they will ultimately pay by serving time behind bars. And you’re “stunned” to hear the news.
Those in the Black community often confront such situations with many mothers and fathers professing that they can’t believe their ears, that “my son” or “my daughter” is innocent and would never commit such an atrocity.
But often parents are only saying what they hope is true. Deep down, they know whether “Little Raheem” pulled the trigger, attacked his girlfriend or went on a rampage in a public setting.
Still, what’s confusing to me is how children, even upon reaching adulthood, can become involved in situations like “Pizzagate” where 28-year-old Edgar Maddison Welch walked into a D.C. family pizza joint, strapped with a rifle which he fired — fortunately without causing injury to any of the employees or patrons. And his decision to act was based on false information.
Welch’s parents say they are just as surprised as anyone else.
I wonder. Because while my children are both adults, 26 and 22, and living on their own after completing their college education, I still know what they’re doing, where they’re going and the people with whom they routinely associate.
Maybe I’m just from the old school — the school where elders were always respected and always obeyed.
Call me nosy if I look in my children’s drawers when I visit. Call me insensitive if I show up for an unannounced visit. Call me a Black dad that refuses to ever be surprised at the actions of my offspring.
Trust me — the police won’t need to arrest my children. By the time they arrive on the scene, I’ll already have things under control. That’s because in our family, Dad and Mom still run the show.