Lyndia Grant
Lyndia Grant

Romans 12:1 reminds us that our bodies are to be sacrificed for the good we can bring to this earth by helping others; we are to be busy doing what we were sent to this earth to do. Our bodies are not our own, we are to sacrifice it by taking responsibility for our actions; we are to eat healthy and exercise daily to do as scripture reminds us to do.

The late Wayne Dyer, internationally renowned author and self-development speaker, shared during one of his many PBS specials about the monarch butterfly:

“The monarch butterfly only lives up to six months, but flies 3,000 miles each year, though their tiny little wings and bodies seem so fragile. Talking about maximum potential! This should astound us, to ask, what we too could do that is extraordinary!”

The viceroy is another type butterfly, but it looks remarkably like the monarch butterfly. Monarchs are poisonous and make birds and other predators so sick that they can’t stop vomiting when they eat one.

The viceroy butterfly, on the other hand, is not poisonous, but looks so much like the monarch it is treated as if it is! Birds, frogs and lizards will leave a viceroy alone if they have ever tasted the yucky monarch; they don’t want that horrible experience ever again.

The viceroy is harmless. So what’s the butterfly metaphor? How does it pertain to this column? Let’s review the question. Each of us must take responsibility for our actions, our well-being and the attainment of our maximum potential.

The butterfly metaphor is this: For the sake of this column, let’s just say the monarchs, the poisonous ones, look beautiful on the outside! Like me, 40 years ago, when I was unhappily married; I used my personal appearance to make myself feel better. Never missed a payday without shopping; and would put expensive suits on lay-away.

One day when I was a receptionist at Children’s Hospital in Oakland, California, before I was promoted to management, I remember coming to work, walking toward my office; and one of the male employees said to me “You look like you just stepped off a plane from attending an important business meeting in New York!” Flattered, though I looked really corporate, inwardly, I was broken — suffering domestic violence, financial burdens, miserable and unhappy! Unchurched at the time, my outer appearance and my work was all I had to make myself feel better, a monarch. Cried complained, shopped, and was not good company! Like Paul said, O wretched woman was I!

Today, my inner man is much more important to me than my outer appearance. Shopping is relevant, done only when absolutely necessary!

An alcoholic father shows how each of his twins was different as adults. One became an alcoholic. When asked why, he said because he was raised by an alcoholic. The other brother wouldn’t touch alcohol. When asked why, he had the same answer, because he was raised by an alcoholic.

The choice is yours, good or bad, take responsibility for your actions and work toward being all that you can be. Are you a monarch or viceroy?

It is our choice to either conform to this world, or we will be transformed by renewing of our mind. Romans reminds us that we must make our bodies a living sacrifice, Holy and acceptable!

Lyndia Grant is a radio talk show host on WYCB (1340 AM), Fridays at 6 p.m. Visit her website at Contact her at 202-518-3192 or

Lyndia Grant

A seasoned radio talk show host, national newspaper columnist, and major special events manager, Lyndia is a change agent. Those who experience hearing messages by this powerhouse speaker are changed forever!

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