Donald Trump (Courtesy photo)
**FILE** Donald Trump (Courtesy photo)

Did you notice when President Trump’s former attorney Michael Cohen finally acknowledged last week how blind he had been? But because he did not face reality, he has ruined his life!

Controlling leadership definitely leads to ruin. Pay close attention and watch those leaders who afford staff, committee members and parishioners the opportunity to think for themselves. You will notice the leader is often surprised when the group does even better than expected.

Though thes helicopter-type leadership style has been proven to be detrimental to growth, too many people still do this! Is it insecurity? Is it because they only see life from one perspective? What is it that causes one to insist, “My way or the highway”?

Leaders who have set an outstanding foundation, and have chosen people to work with them who have set goals, have mapped out a route based on a firm foundation underneath them are sure to come out on top. Here’s an example of a strong foundation:

Ravi Zacharias wrote: “A few weeks ago, I did a lectureship at Ohio State University. As I was being driven to the lecture, we passed the new Wexner Art Center. The driver said, ‘This is a new art building for the university. It is a fascinating building designed in the post-modernist view of reality.’ The building has no pattern. Staircases go nowhere. Pillars support nothing. The architect designed the building to reflect life. It went nowhere and was mindless and senseless.’ I turned to the man describing it and asked, ‘Did they do the same thing with the foundation?’ He laughed. ‘You can’t do that with a foundation.’”

The fetus inside the womb of the mother for nine months is God’s foundation for the life of us. God made man, and none of us understand fully how life grows, changes and becomes. Fingernails show up when they’re suppose to, hair will falls out when it should. Life has this secret formula, and each of us has our very own unique self.

So why would a leader feel so compelled to tell someone to do the project in only one way, as if there are no other ways? Of course, there are exceptions to this rule, but for the most part, in the world of communications, there are always many routes that can be taken to achieve the desired results.

I love how Wayne Dyer says it: “We must move from stiffness to flexibility; we must live by not interfering with the progress of others, and allow them to figure things out for themselves. Each of us has the anchor of the universe within us. Everything under heaven is a sacred vessel and cannot be controlled. Trying to control causes us to lose our grasp. We lose.”

Don’t be a helicopter supervisor or parent, leader or pastor, hovering over people, hovering over your children, hovering over your church members. Let it go, and let God do His perfect work.

Ecclesiastics reminds us, “There is a time for everything and everything in its time. A time to get ahead and a time to rest, a time to be invigorated and a time to suffer.”

The more rules you make, the more rule-breakers you create. More openness and more willingness are needed.

Give up hard and become subtle, not rigid. A man is born gentle and weak, at his death he becomes hard and stiff. Trees are soft and pliable in life, but in death they are hard. Stiffness is a companion in death and flexibility is a companion in life.

Palm trees flow in the wind and possess elasticity — they go all the way over and all the way back. It’s a symbol of how we need to think.

Lyndia Grant is a speaker/writer living in the D.C. area. Her radio show, “Think on These Things,” airs Fridays at 6 p.m. on 1340 AM (WYCB), a Radio One station. To reach Grant, visit her website,, email or call 202-518-3192. Follow her on Twitter @LyndiaGrant and on Facebook.

Lyndia Grant

A seasoned radio talk show host, national newspaper columnist, and major special events manager, Lyndia is a change agent. Those who experience hearing messages by this powerhouse speaker are changed forever!

Leave a comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *