Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? — Matthew 7:1-6 (NIV)

When you stop judging and simply become an observer, you will know inner peace. With that sense of inner peace, you’ll find yourself happier and free of the negative energy of resentment. A bonus is that you’ll find that others are much more attracted to you. A peaceful person attracts peaceful energy. Let me repeat that: A peaceful person attracts peaceful energy. Refrain from judging others — you have not walked in their shoes, therefore, you do not know what has brought them to this place whether that place is positive or negative. Only God know everything about you and me. Thusly, let us stop judging others.

America would be in a much better place today in regard to race relations if we would only stop judging African Americans from those negative news stories. Last month for my 67th birthday, my family treated me to a cruise to Bermuda, my first! My entire family was together. What a blessed time! The family has never had such a grand time. Each night, as we gather in the formal dining room for dinner, the others around us acted as if they had never seen such a large gathering of African Americans, looking so well dressed, and with good manners, poised and acting like we belonged there. Another example of a Black family doing something other than what they show on the evening news!

I mention that because several Caucasians said to me “I’ve been watching you and your family, what a lovely family you all are!” We never thought anything about us, we are simply who we are, as so many of you all are out there, reading this column. Our race of people is so often judged. Haven’t you heard them say they were afraid because they believe the majority of Blacks are packing guns, thieves, ready to do something to someone, when the exact opposite is true?

Millions of African-American families are successful, and their children and grandchildren are, too. That kind of news simply does not make it to the evening news. In fact, though I struggled without my ex-husband, I was able to get my son into Morehouse College. The entire family was so pleased when he graduated, that we all drove an 18-passenger van to attend his graduation. Then later, he continued his education, graduating from the University of Maryland University College, earning his masters in finance. He earns above six figures! Yes, I am a proud mother. You will not get that on the news. In fact, my sons must watch themselves, as they drive while Black too.

If I’m to be a person of love, living from my highest self, that means that love is all I have inside of me and all that I have to give away. If someone I love chooses to be something other than what my ego would prefer, I must send them the ingredients of my highest self, which is God, and God is love.

Are you guilty of judging others? When I find myself criticizing or condemning others about the way they think, feel and act, regardless of how right and moral I feel my thoughts, feelings and actions are, I must refrain from this, and live life the way scripture says in Matthew 7.

Lyndia Grant is a speaker/writer living in the D.C. area. Her radio show, “Think on These Things,” airs Fridays ‪at 6 p.m. on 1340 AM (WYCB), a Radio One station. Visit her website,, send comments to or call ‪240-602-6295. Follow her on Twitter @LyndiaGrant and on Facebook.

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