What do you really know? We know for sure things will change. Have you heard of the Law of Impermanence, which explains that all things are unstable and have no essence that is unchanging?
The Law of Impermanence states that all relationships will end via death or separation. It’s true, but who thinks about such things? Only “deep thinkers” consider thoughts like this. You don’t sit around chatting, enjoying your morning coffee and thinking about how everything good in your life is going to go away at some point.
Let’s take a look at this law, as we think about how it affects our lives in a positive way. There are two sides to every coin. The Law of Impermanence, though, can also ease us through these tough times of extreme racism, layoffs and worldwide pandemic, times of transition and pain.
How many times have you said, “this, too, shall pass?” How does the law of impermanence speak to your situation? Personally, I now have an empty nest, a first for me. Does it scare me? Yes, at times. I like to couple it by saying, “This, too, shall pass.” Either my new spouse will come along, or my life will become accustomed to my new normal.
All relationships will end via death or separation. This too shall pass. It will pass, and so will the good times and the bad. As will the businesses you build, millions of businesses on hold or shut down during this pandemic. Friendship, marriages, relationships with your children, even — all will end. Grown-up children will go their own way and make a life for themselves. All of it at some point will cease to exist as you either cease to exist or situations evolve.
Once you get a full understanding of this law, which means to take it all in without fear, it will truly free us, though these occasions will be painful, we will understand. When we truly know all of our relationships must end, then when one does, we also know the pain of the loss will also come to an end, given enough time. We know that when one door closes, as they all must do at some point, another one must open.
By understanding that the law has to work both ways, we can take solace in the fact that the relationship with the pain we may be feeling today also must end. It cannot, and it will not live inside us forever. It will change. We will change. Our circumstances will change. Life will bring us new experiences, new relationships, and new sets of impermanence.
Change is inevitable — on that we can depend. Our external worlds will always be in a state of flux. Friends move, jobs dissolve, and people come and go. The closest of relationships can transform into the deepest of animosity. The houses we grew up in will have to be left. For example, my favorite home was so lovely, with a swimming pool, but now when the family drives by to revisit that home, it looks like it needs to be demolished. And we lived in that home only 40 years ago. It could have held up better, but the new owners didn’t love and care for that home and nice yard the way we did! The neighborhood just isn’t what it used to be.
Universal laws do their thing and leave us to work our lives around them. Understanding them and embracing them will let us control the only part of our lives that we can control.
Therefore, as we allow the Law of Impermanence to bring comfort, it should allow you to breathe deeper knowing that everything must come to pass, including yourself. Allow life to work her magic. Look around and live your best life, even if it is painful to us in the moment, like the extreme racism, worldwide pandemic, loss of jobs, and depending on our Lord and Savior, along with the government’s unemployment assistance for millions of us, to make ends meet. Nothing is permanent.
Lyndia Grant is a speaker/writer living in the D.C. area. Her radio show, “Think on These Things,” airs Fridays at 6 p.m. on 1340 AM (WYCB), a Radio One station. To reach Grant, visit her website, www.lyndiagrant.com, email email@example.com or call 240-602-6295. Follow her on Twitter @LyndiaGrant and on Facebook.