Let me reiterate in this week’s column how critically important I believe it is for each of us to travel through life by creating new experiences. There are people that I know very well, who lived at the same address throughout children, graduated from high school and maybe went off to college, yet throughout their entire 18 years or so, they stayed within the same boundaries.
This column is a suggestion to those who fit that description, to encourage you to take on new projects in your life or take a different road.
We’ve all heard Einstein’s definition of insanity, “doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” Being stuck can be incredibly stressful. The first step in changing our plan of attack is to realize that what we are doing isn’t working.
I’d like to share a story with you again. I heard from a talk by Dr. Wayne Dyer about 10 years ago. I think it really illustrates how we need to change the way we think about things and especially how we run our lives. In order to get ourselves to move forward with change and progress in our lives, it requires we do a new thing. In his talk, Dyer discussed five chapters in a book about our normal progression. In fact, it is exactly how many of us live our lives.
Dyer said how he enjoyed the way Cheri Flake said it in this quote:
“Chapter One of My Life, I walk down the street. There’s a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost. I am helpless. It’s not my fault. I still take forever to find a way up. Chapter Two, I walk down the same street. There’s a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again, I can’t believe I’m in the same place! It isn’t my fault, but it still takes a long time to get out. Chapter Three I walk down the same street. There’s a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it there and I still fall in! It’s a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It’s my fault. I get out immediately. Chapter Four, I walk down the same street. There’s a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it. Chapter Five, I walk down a different street.”
At the ripe old age of 68, I’ll share with you a new experience in my life. During the summer, I listened to the Holy Spirit, which said, “audition for this gospel stage play.” Result? Well, last Saturday, it was my pleasure to try something new in my life. Working with a veteran cast, it was my acting debut. After selling more than 70 tickets, I walked out on stage in the gospel stage play called “The Home” beside a legend, Melba Moore, playing the small role as a senior citizen living in an assisted living home. It was quite a surprise to me, but I found myself extremely nervous. It’s called stage fright! The producer, Shuaib Mitchell, said that though I got nervous and forgot my lines a couple of times, I stayed in character. He said I passed the test, because the audience did not know what had happened!
Speaking before crowds doesn’t bother me, hosting my radio show weekly works. Stage fright really had me going, my friends, at least for the first show. Then for the second show, my stage fright was much less. Another goal conquered — now to trust God and grow. I’m practicing what I preach, took a different road. This was quite an experience, but yet another challenge, dream fulfilled.
Lyndia Grant is a speaker/writer living in the D.C. area. Her radio show, “Think on These Things,” airs Fridays at 6 p.m. on 1340 AM (WYCB), a Radio One station. To reach Grant, visit her website, www.lyndiagrantshow.com, email email@example.com or call 240-602-6295. Follow her on Twitter @LyndiaGrant and on Facebook.