by Lyndia Grant
Special to the NNPA from The Washington Informer
With Valentine’s Day only a few days away, I thought I would delve into this subject of relationships a bit. Think about these truths in terms of your own relationships. If you wish to change the quality of people you are attracting, change your level. Work on yourself, change the way you think, change the things you do and the places you go, the people you meet. And what are they doing? You can create a different you.
I heard one of my inspirational speakers say that water seeks its own level; intrigued by the saying, I discovered through research that most of the discussion was about relationships between men and women with most in romance.
At that point, I began to consider my acquaintances, comparing them to myself. As I looked at the people in my life, I measured values, integrity and loyalty, and discovered, the saying is definitely true.
Water seeks its own level simply means quality people of integrity find other quality people of integrity and vice versa. It also means high quality finds high quality and low quality finds low quality. This is true in business and in life.
It is a scientific fact: water does indeed reach its own level. It’s also a scientific fact that our bodies are made of 90 percent water. And the Bible says the same thing but like this:“Let the waters under the heavens be gathered together into one place, and let the dry land appear.” And it was so. Genesis 1:9
The Bible also reminds us “As a man thinketh, so is he”– so, what are we thinking? It shows when we open our mouths, with the things we say. We will create more of that which we are judging, simply by the act of placing attention on it. Whatever we judge in other people is something in ourselves we recognize, except we don’t want to look at it, but it is there.
The Holy Spirit knows the number of hairs on our heads; it knew us before we were formed, so our thoughts are nothing. Scripture reminds us “Life and death are in the power of the tongue.” It tells us … But whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again. The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” John 4:14.
So drink up, and never thirst again. You will be working on yourself from within. Look to the level of your own water, beliefs, thought patterns, and allow the Word to take you to another level. View them the same way you view garage sales. Keep some, get rid of others.
You know immediately whether you’re using items or not. It served you for a while, but now it doesn’t. Time to get rid of it, to make room for something new. It’s the same thing with behaviors and beliefs and thought patterns that no longer serve you. Simply remove them, make room for new thoughts and beliefs. Change your level. As with all change, there might be a grieving process associated with it. Be gentle: don’t judge, don’t go to a place of shame or guilt, just release and move on.
My mentors have all been older; Dr. Dorothy Height and Dr. Willie B. Kennedy; both are deceased now. But I often think of lifestyles they taught me. Others who taught me are still alive like Dr. Charlene Drew Jarvis; I learned an awful lot from her; and Dr. Marjorie Harris, retired college president in Detroit. She’s now like another mother to me. If water seeks its own level, I’ve been in good company, but not in every instance!
Lyndia Grant is a radio talk show host on WYCB 1340 AM, Fridays at 6 p.m., a Radio-One Station; Religious Columnist; Media Coordinator; Major Special Events Coordinator; Author & Inspirational Speaker. Visit her website at www.lyndiagrant.com; call 202-518-3192; send emails to email@example.com.